Why do we have emotional difficulties?

Similar to physical vulnerability, each person has an emotional or psychological vulnerability.  People are not born with this vulnerability, but they get it by learning beliefs or attitudes from interaction with others and from the effects of these interactions.  Emotional vulnerability relates to the development of personal beliefs such as:

  • “I must please everyone” /“Everybody should be happy with me”
  • “I should not bother anyone”
  • “Emotions must be controlled”
  • “If you express how you feel, you are vulnerable”
  • “It is unacceptable to make mistakes”
  • “I must be 100% sure in order to be able to go further, uncertainty paralyzes me”
  • “Other people are hostile and they are using you”,
  • “If others do not change, I can not feel good” etc…

We are not born with these beliefs or thinking patterns, but we learn them as a result of life experiences.

This emotional vulnerability when faced with psychosocial risk factors such as conflicts, time pressure, overwork, unexpected events, unpredictability, uncertainty, increase the likelihood of difficulties in normal personal functioning: the person can not concentrate, it is difficult for them to manage intense emotions, feelings of guilt appear, personal dissatisfaction, worries, irritability and aggressive behavior, pain, excessive drinking, smoking or eating, etc.  These issues relate to emotional or mental health of the person and the affected organ in this case is the brain.

There are two types of therapy for the treatment of emotional health problems (http://www.nice.org.uk/):drug therapy and psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy is a form of psychological therapy or verbal therapy that allows patients to change how they feel and to improve their quality of life.